Effective Leadership


It’s not uncommon to hear this common statement “we manage people.”  Can humans be managed?

To manage people means to control everything about their life. To control their time, decision, plan, thoughts pattern, and ultimately their destiny. This is like witchcraft. I have come to realize that this kind of statement is not uncommon among most managers. This is what they do to you at your workplace, they manage you; they control your time; your plan; your decisions; how you use your talent; and ultimately your destiny. This is the servitude of the highest order.

Difference Between Leaders and Managers

While managers maintain followers leaders produce leaders. Managers use manipulative strategies to drive out performances – even when those they manage remain followers. The ultimate goal of a leader is to produce leaders. Leaders want to see you become like them, or even more. They are the ones who produce successors. Their history can never be erased.

Managers micro-manage people. They have a monitoring system in place that checks and reports the activities of those who work under them. But leaders allow you to work with little or no supervision. Managers manage people like other resources – the same way they manage time, money, and materials.

If you are a team lead, or you head a department in your organization and your subordinates keep coming to you for help on certain issues severally, there is a problem. True leaders train followers to become leaders.

The objective of every true leader is to have a successor. Leaders are the ones that make an impact and history but most managers are not remembered after their death. Most people that you called leaders are not leaders (especially most politicians in your country). Hitler was not a leader.

Leadership is not about leading people; it’s about taking the lead. Leaders are those who go to work and work. This is why there are always more workers than leaders because the price for leadership is not cheap talk. It demands efficient use of self, energy, time, and resources.

Everybody is born to become a leader. What keeps you as a follower is your mentality. The lion is the king of the jungle because of the way he thinks. A pack of sheep led by a lion will always defeat a pack of lions led by a sheep. Effective leadership can turn a coward into a warrior.

It’s not about your ability, it’s about your mentality that makes you become a true leader. The lion is not the biggest in the jungle nor the strongest. The giraffe and elephant are bigger than the Lion but when the lion sees them, he eats them for launch. 

Many have the potential of becoming a true leaders but their destiny is smothered by the fear of people. In most cases, you may need to walk alone to pursue your assignment while others may have to catch up with you later. Leadership is doing something different. Everybody is looking for a job why can’t you start your own business? You have to be delivered from culture to become a true leader. Leaders are respected because they do what others are afraid to do.

Recap

A good leader doesn’t maintain followers, they produce leaders. Unlike managers,  leaders do not manage people; It’s your attitude, not your aptitude; It’s not your ability but your mentality that makes you become an effective leader. You are born to lead, but it’s your mind (affected by bad teachings) that keeps you as a follower. Until you break out of norms you may die as a follower. You can’t become a leader as sheep because sheep are always behind. You’ve got to become a lion to become a leader. I wish we have more leaders than managers.

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7 Foundations of a Successful Marriage


Seven Foundation of a Successful Marriage

Marriage is an institution, a state of being married or the union of two people, usually to the exclusion of all others. Foundation is the starting point of anything that demand building. For example, if you want build a house, business, relationship, project etc you must build a foundation for it. The stronger the foundation the bigger the building becomes. All through this post we shall be capturing the foundation upon which a successful marriage can be built.

(1) Jesus

If what you desire is a hitch free marriage, then there is a foundation required for it. The foundation that is required for prosperous marriage is the same foundation that is required for prosperous business, financial and economic future. The foundation is Jesus. Those who do not know Jesus before they get married will do extra job to be saved.

“For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ (1. Cor.3:11)”

It’s a common foundation for any building whether marriage, business or career. Jesus is the common factor for every future – other foundation can no man laid no matter what he is trying to build on it. “If the foundation be destroyed, what can the righteous do (Psalm 11:3).” Jesus is the only acceptable, authentic and reliable foundation – if you head for a trouble home, you will know that there is hell on earth. To enjoy a peaceful family life for a great tomorrow you need to build that aspiration or vision on the only authentic, reliable and approved foundation which is Jesus Christ.

Wives Submit Yourselves to Your Husband

(2) Word

“In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. The same was in the beginning with God. All things were made by him; and without him was not any thing made that was made. (John.1:1-3).”

Understand this, anything you are building on earth that must stand must be built on the word. God’s word does not undergo civilization. It is the same yesterday, today and forever. “For I am the lord I changed not ( Malachi.3:6).” Time and season; age and civilization cannot affect it. God’s word is the same forever as God Himself.

The reason why we have so much of failure today is that we have left the foundation, we are building on something else. The foundation to everything that will be enviable tomorrow is the word of God.

The word of God is the sustaining force to anything that will stand – every future that will stand must takes its bearing from the word of God. When you shift from that, you are building what will never stand. Anyone that wants to get to the God must go through His word which is Jesus.“Heaven and earth shall pass away, but my words shall not pass away (Mathew.24:35).”

Husbands Love Your Wives as the Christ Love the Church

(3) God’s Plan

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not evil, to give you an expected end (Jer.29:11).”

In God’s great design for your tomorrow He didn’t put evil at any corner. When God designed your future, He made it evil free so that you can be free from worries today and settle down to locate the best way to build.

“But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him (1.Cor.2:9).”

(4). Revelation

God is saying what He has prepared for you no man has ever seen it and the only way to get that beautiful future is to attend to revelation which will enable you to get your step into it.

“But God hath revealed them unto us by his Spirit: for the Spirit searcheth all things, yea, the deep things of God (1. Cor.2:10).”

If you must see those beautiful, colourful things that have been prepared for you, you must cooperate with the Holy Spirit inside you to begin to bring the deep things of God by revelation so that you can take possession of it. It takes revelation to have possession. “For all the land which thou seest, to thee will I give It and to thy seed for ever (Gen.13:14 ).”

Beautiful and colourful is your tomorrow but until you can see it you cannot realize it. The best way to build our future is to seek revelation and pursue it, what ever God has revealed, He has delivered. Revelation is the secret of possession. This is your brightest hour to see the brightest you can see to earn the brightness of your future. Do you want a great future? Go after strong revelations and you will earn an enviable future.

A Man Will Cleave to His Woman

God has no trouble in His plan for your future but if you are ignorant, the devil will ever put trouble than you will ever bargain for. It’s possible to have a hitch free future, ever smiling family, children who don’t cry and have food to eat no matter how costly it becomes in town but the strength of the foundation which you are building determines the height you can go. Every skyscraper you see they don’t have the same foundation as bungalow.

This is your best hour – if you play with this hour of your life you will have plenty of regret tomorrow. This is your finest opportunity to go full length after God. Whatever that has been prepared for you can be revealed to you and he that seeketh findeth. So, you must seek the revelation of the things that have been prepared for you and when you have seen it, God has no choice but to deliver it.

It’s the light in your soul that will determine the brightness of tomorrow. What will hold your tomorrow is what you have discovered by yourself today. Let’s undertake discoveries adventures and build a great tomorrow consciously. It works.

(5) Knowledge

Every man status is determined by grace and grace can be multiplied. If grace determined status, it means grace will multiply status and knowledge multiply grace. The more knowledge you have, the more grace you have and the higher status you approach.

“But by the grace God I am what I am: and his grace which was bestowed upon me was not in vain; but I laboured more abundantly than they all: yet not I, but the grace of God which was with me (1. Cor.15:10).”

“Elect according to the foreknowledge of God the father, through sanctification of the Spirit, unto obedience and sprinkling of the blood of Jesus Christ: Grace unto you, and peace, be multiplied (2.peter.1:2).”

Listen: your destiny is not static but dynamic and It’s determined by you. How much revelation you acquired; determines how much height you attain. Anything you don’t know you will pay for it. You don’t know does not gives you the freedom. Ignorance is not an excuse in law.

Knowledge is what makes king. Wherever knowledge reigns mountain trembles. Grace determines size, knowledge determines grace and knowledge determines size. You are rated by your word level in the sight of God. “Then said the LORD unto me, thou hast well see: for I will hasten my word to perform it (Jeremiah.1:12).”

Revelation should be your goal to lay a strong foundation for your marriage. God watches over His word to perform it.

For Husband is the Head of the Wife, Even as Christ is the Head of the Church

(6) Humility

There are some young men that no women qualify to be their wives while there are some young ladies that no men qualify to be their husbands. God will always resist the proud but He gives more grace to the humble.

You only know what it’s now, you can’t tell what that becomes tomorrow.
Growing up together is what makes a family. Many people marital destiny have been caged because of pride. Man:”can I marry you?” Woman: “Oh, you want to marry me?” Number one: “do you have a second degree?” Number two: how much is your income per month sir?” Man:N30000 Woman:30000? Woman: “how much is the savings in your account?” Beware of pride. The one the lord brought to Abraham servant became Isaac’s wife, there were no interrogations.

(7) Seek and Find

“Whosever findeth a wife, findeth a good thing (Proverb.18:22).” Your quest for marital partner is all about finding, not sleeping neither day dreaming but practical finding (your mental alertness is required). How do you know that you have found a wife? You know that you have found a wife when the two of you are agreeable (Amos.3:3)

Final Thoughts

Friend, a blissful marriage is not impossible to achieve. In this post, I have been able to define the meaning of marriage and foundation. Furthermore, I have been able to explain the only genuine solid foundation that your marriage can be built upon in order to be successful and i have also listed and explain 7 foundations of a sustainable marriage which are:

• Jesus
• The word of God
• God’s plan
• Revelation
• knowledge
• Humility
• Seek and find

The capital truth is that, sustainable marriage requires God’s wisdom to achieve. A man supposes to pray for his wife because the woman can easily be deceived and manipulated by the devil.

My sentiment is not based on my gender, but everyone will agree with me that it was the woman that the devil deceived in the garden that later involved her husband. And lastly marriage is not a competition. Both parties must learn how to live together as partners without competing with each other.

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