7 Foundations of a Successful Marriage


Seven Foundation of a Successful Marriage

Marriage is an institution, a state of being married or the union of two people, usually to the exclusion of all others. Foundation is the starting point of anything that demand building. For example, if you want build a house, business, relationship, project etc you must build a foundation for it. The stronger the foundation the bigger the building becomes. All through this post we shall be capturing the foundation upon which a successful marriage can be built.

(1) Jesus

If what you desire is a hitch free marriage, then there is a foundation required for it. The foundation that is required for prosperous marriage is the same foundation that is required for prosperous business, financial and economic future. The foundation is Jesus. Those who do not know Jesus before they get married will do extra job to be saved.

“For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ (1. Cor.3:11)”

It’s a common foundation for any building whether marriage, business or career. Jesus is the common factor for every future – other foundation can no man laid no matter what he is trying to build on it. “If the foundation be destroyed, what can the righteous do (Psalm 11:3).” Jesus is the only acceptable, authentic and reliable foundation – if you head for a trouble home, you will know that there is hell on earth. To enjoy a peaceful family life for a great tomorrow you need to build that aspiration or vision on the only authentic, reliable and approved foundation which is Jesus Christ.

Wives Submit Yourselves to Your Husband

(2) Word

“In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. The same was in the beginning with God. All things were made by him; and without him was not any thing made that was made. (John.1:1-3).”

Understand this, anything you are building on earth that must stand must be built on the word. God’s word does not undergo civilization. It is the same yesterday, today and forever. “For I am the lord I changed not ( Malachi.3:6).” Time and season; age and civilization cannot affect it. God’s word is the same forever as God Himself.

The reason why we have so much of failure today is that we have left the foundation, we are building on something else. The foundation to everything that will be enviable tomorrow is the word of God.

The word of God is the sustaining force to anything that will stand – every future that will stand must takes its bearing from the word of God. When you shift from that, you are building what will never stand. Anyone that wants to get to the God must go through His word which is Jesus.“Heaven and earth shall pass away, but my words shall not pass away (Mathew.24:35).”

Husbands Love Your Wives as the Christ Love the Church

(3) God’s Plan

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not evil, to give you an expected end (Jer.29:11).”

In God’s great design for your tomorrow He didn’t put evil at any corner. When God designed your future, He made it evil free so that you can be free from worries today and settle down to locate the best way to build.

“But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him (1.Cor.2:9).”

(4). Revelation

God is saying what He has prepared for you no man has ever seen it and the only way to get that beautiful future is to attend to revelation which will enable you to get your step into it.

“But God hath revealed them unto us by his Spirit: for the Spirit searcheth all things, yea, the deep things of God (1. Cor.2:10).”

If you must see those beautiful, colourful things that have been prepared for you, you must cooperate with the Holy Spirit inside you to begin to bring the deep things of God by revelation so that you can take possession of it. It takes revelation to have possession. “For all the land which thou seest, to thee will I give It and to thy seed for ever (Gen.13:14 ).”

Beautiful and colourful is your tomorrow but until you can see it you cannot realize it. The best way to build our future is to seek revelation and pursue it, what ever God has revealed, He has delivered. Revelation is the secret of possession. This is your brightest hour to see the brightest you can see to earn the brightness of your future. Do you want a great future? Go after strong revelations and you will earn an enviable future.

A Man Will Cleave to His Woman

God has no trouble in His plan for your future but if you are ignorant, the devil will ever put trouble than you will ever bargain for. It’s possible to have a hitch free future, ever smiling family, children who don’t cry and have food to eat no matter how costly it becomes in town but the strength of the foundation which you are building determines the height you can go. Every skyscraper you see they don’t have the same foundation as bungalow.

This is your best hour – if you play with this hour of your life you will have plenty of regret tomorrow. This is your finest opportunity to go full length after God. Whatever that has been prepared for you can be revealed to you and he that seeketh findeth. So, you must seek the revelation of the things that have been prepared for you and when you have seen it, God has no choice but to deliver it.

It’s the light in your soul that will determine the brightness of tomorrow. What will hold your tomorrow is what you have discovered by yourself today. Let’s undertake discoveries adventures and build a great tomorrow consciously. It works.

(5) Knowledge

Every man status is determined by grace and grace can be multiplied. If grace determined status, it means grace will multiply status and knowledge multiply grace. The more knowledge you have, the more grace you have and the higher status you approach.

“But by the grace God I am what I am: and his grace which was bestowed upon me was not in vain; but I laboured more abundantly than they all: yet not I, but the grace of God which was with me (1. Cor.15:10).”

“Elect according to the foreknowledge of God the father, through sanctification of the Spirit, unto obedience and sprinkling of the blood of Jesus Christ: Grace unto you, and peace, be multiplied (2.peter.1:2).”

Listen: your destiny is not static but dynamic and It’s determined by you. How much revelation you acquired; determines how much height you attain. Anything you don’t know you will pay for it. You don’t know does not gives you the freedom. Ignorance is not an excuse in law.

Knowledge is what makes king. Wherever knowledge reigns mountain trembles. Grace determines size, knowledge determines grace and knowledge determines size. You are rated by your word level in the sight of God. “Then said the LORD unto me, thou hast well see: for I will hasten my word to perform it (Jeremiah.1:12).”

Revelation should be your goal to lay a strong foundation for your marriage. God watches over His word to perform it.

For Husband is the Head of the Wife, Even as Christ is the Head of the Church

(6) Humility

There are some young men that no women qualify to be their wives while there are some young ladies that no men qualify to be their husbands. God will always resist the proud but He gives more grace to the humble.

You only know what it’s now, you can’t tell what that becomes tomorrow.
Growing up together is what makes a family. Many people marital destiny have been caged because of pride. Man:”can I marry you?” Woman: “Oh, you want to marry me?” Number one: “do you have a second degree?” Number two: how much is your income per month sir?” Man:N30000 Woman:30000? Woman: “how much is the savings in your account?” Beware of pride. The one the lord brought to Abraham servant became Isaac’s wife, there were no interrogations.

(7) Seek and Find

“Whosever findeth a wife, findeth a good thing (Proverb.18:22).” Your quest for marital partner is all about finding, not sleeping neither day dreaming but practical finding (your mental alertness is required). How do you know that you have found a wife? You know that you have found a wife when the two of you are agreeable (Amos.3:3)

Final Thoughts

Friend, a blissful marriage is not impossible to achieve. In this post, I have been able to define the meaning of marriage and foundation. Furthermore, I have been able to explain the only genuine solid foundation that your marriage can be built upon in order to be successful and i have also listed and explain 7 foundations of a sustainable marriage which are:

• Jesus
• The word of God
• God’s plan
• Revelation
• knowledge
• Humility
• Seek and find

The capital truth is that, sustainable marriage requires God’s wisdom to achieve. A man supposes to pray for his wife because the woman can easily be deceived and manipulated by the devil.

My sentiment is not based on my gender, but everyone will agree with me that it was the woman that the devil deceived in the garden that later involved her husband. And lastly marriage is not a competition. Both parties must learn how to live together as partners without competing with each other.

Experience Is Not Your Best Teacher


Experience Is Not Your Best Teacher

Experience is not your best teacher. The Holy Spirit is your best teacher. You don’t learn by experience; but you learn by revelation. You make the most of our life by rhema.

Don’t waste your life pursuing after mere money. Pursue light instead, and money will follow. It’s the quality of your light that determines the quality of your life and the word of God is the carrier of the light of God. The more you’re word loaded, the more you’re likely to make the most of your life.

The entrance of the word giveth light; it giveth understanding unto the simple (Psm.119:130).

Life is a lifetime. Time not well managed will be wasted & energy level diminishes with age. Timely discovered purpose is the master key to a fulfilled destiny.

Light is light. It doesn’t matter where you got it from. In most cases, we get our light through the light of others.

For with thee is the fountain of life: in thy light shall we see light. (Psm.36:9)

Don’t be arrogant. The level of your meekness cannot supersede the level of your greatness. The meekest Moses was also the greatest Moses in the land of Egypt.

Now the man Moses was very meek, above all the men which were upon the face of the earth (Num.12:3).

And the Lord gave the people favour in the sight of the Egyptians. Moreover the man Moses was very great in the land of Egypt, in the sight of Pharaoh’s servants, and in the sight of the people (Ex.11:3).

How To Pursue Light

  • Find people who are in light (you don’t have to know them personally).
  • Collect their materials and study them.
  • Apply and follow the same steps they followed.

Prove Your Humility In

Prayer

The highest form of arrogance is living without praying while the highest form of humility is to seek God in prayer (it shows that you’re humble enough to ask help for God). Don’t be bigger than God. He promotes the humble and demotes the proud. He is the lifter and builder of men.

Promotion cometh neither from the east, nor from the west, nor from the south. But God is the judge: he putteth down one, and setteth up another. (Psalms.75:7)

He can’t entrust His secret to you than the level of your meekness. The meek will he guide in judgment: and the meek will he teach his ways. (Psm.25:9).

Anybody that can eat and talk can pray. It’s “all men” ought to pray and not to faint; not “all christian-bloggers.” (Luke18:1).

And As He Prayed, The Fashion Of His Countenance Was Altered, And His Raiment Was White And Glistering

Fainting in prayer connotes failing in life. A prayer house is a power house. You can’t lose your voice in prayer and not have a voice in your world. The world will listen to you when you speak. Prayer does not only change things; it changes people.

Prove Your Love By Obeying

It’s not the word that enters you that works but the word that you enter. The body of Christ needs to start talking about our entrance into the word.

But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your ownselves (James.1:22).

Lion is not the greatest animal; sheep is the greatest animal. Because, according to the scripture, “the young lion may suffer and lack.” (PS.34:10). But the sheep will not have to fend for themselves.

Your Journey To Greatness Begins With Obedience
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The journey to your greatness begins with obedience. You can’t obey today and not be great tomorrow. Jesus who is our perfect example obeyed God till He died on the cross (He was on the cross & still doing evangelism, ah!) and as a result, God gave Him a name that is above all other names (Phil.2:8 – 9).

The word that enters you holds no value for anyone but the word that you dive into that will produce results anyday, anytime, anywhere.

The Holy Spirit Teaches All Things

Experience is not your best teacher but the Holy Spirit. Let the Holy spirit leads you. What you don’t know, things in your past, present and future will be revealed to you by the Holy Spirit. As a result, you don’t have to go through trauma to learn anything. By the infilling of the Holy Spirit you will escape such horrendous experience.

I have yet many things to say unto you, but ye cannot bear them now. [13] Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come (John.16:12-13).

Final Thoughts

Revelation is the king. Education without revelation is incomplete. That doesn’t mean that education is bad but people who have education also need revelation to make the most of their lives. Get access to revelation by:

  • Having a close proximity with God & running a consistent prayer life.
  • Thirsting & asking for the baptism of the Holy Spirit.
  • Praying in the Holy Ghost.
  • Walking in Obedience.
  • Engaging in a praise lifestyle.
  • Being sensitive to the nudges & voices of the spirit
  • Submitting to the lead of the spirit.

On thing about the God is that He doesn’t speaks to a deaf ear, if He tells you to do one thing, as crazy as it may look but you refuse; He will not tell you the next thing to do. One step after the other, that is how the spirit leads. Brick by brick Rome was built.

I pray that 2020 will be far better than 2019 for all of us. Happy new year in advance. God bless you💜


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